A Journey Into Discussion

That night I was to meet a friend at his home to discuss some recent throwbacks involving his upbringing.

We sat on the couch simultaneously. Just as Quick he began to speak. “It was the divorce.”

He began to rapidly pant, explaining that he had a picture perfect childhood. That is until the divorce.

He recanted “that night.” Oh you’ve had a “that night.” That night will live no matter how much it needs to die. That night will cause weariness no amount of work could and that night will follow you closer than any stalker. King Xerxes had a “that night” which is recorded in the Biblical book of Esther and the Persian records. Jesus had a “that night” in a garden called Gethsemane.

As I sat and listened to him describe the events of that night, a study I did from my teens crept back at such a relevant time.

Usually in a discussion one person speaks and the other is thinking of the perfect answer, relevant statistics or a robotic like answer.

The Hebrew word for discussion is דרך and it’s defined as a journey, or road we travel. So conversation isn’t about having all the right answers or proving point. Conversation is about a journey we take together.

So sitting on this couch with a teary eyed adult I realized I had to throw out my robotic answers and feel good statistics and do more than listen and talk…I needed to walk.

Conversation is less about talking and more about walking.

While caught up in the story I sat on his childhood bed, Spiderman sheets and listened to what his parents said. I felt it… It hit me.

Discussion is journey…

I then could speak to him in a real and raw way because I didn’t hear a story that night, I walked a road with him.

Some of your most powerful conversations will be the ones with the least words spoken.

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Let’s Talk About Sex (And Compassion)

Let’s talk about sex (and Compassion)

I recently had the pleasure of speaking with Larry Flynt at one of his Hustler stores and the creator of Girls Gone Wild Joe Francis on one occasion a few months back

We shared words of wisdom and Love together and I realized that these guys are not the enemy I had once believed and once was taught.

Around five or six years ago I would have been one of those protesting someone sitting down with Larry Flynt, today I’m walking down a different road. Now I am the one sitting down with people like Larry Flynt.

I’ll get to what we talked about after I share with you a few misconceptions and ideas about sex. The Bible consistently brings up two distinct ways to apply a word, scripture, teaching and so on. The first is the physical and the second is the spiritual.

The word sex can be found to be defined as, “to amputate, or to cut off.”

So the physical act of sex is an intimate encounter reflecting in intercourse. The spiritual aspect is an encounter that is intimate in a different nature.

This spiritual aspect of sex is a giving up not a giving in. It’s a handing over rather than a handling.

Speaking of handling, the Hebrew word used for compassion is racham and is defined as, “to fondle.”

Now compassion can join our conversation, because it is just as dirty and raw as this discussion. Compassion is less of a social justice, humanist word and now a word describing an intimate encounter of aid and help.

The word fondle brings back memories of new lovers who can’t keep their hands off each other for me, I would bet it’s similar for you.

What if compassion took on this same intensity? We couldn’t help but help those in need; we couldn’t help but to console the hurting.  We couldn’t help but hold the broken. We can put the passion back into compassion.

Feelings and emotions erupt and display when you have given yourself in a spiritually intimate way, just as when you give yourself in a physically intimate way. Now your defensive for that person, now you have a Love for that person that can’t be put into words, and when that person hurts, you hurt.

We can go much farther into this and I may do that in a future book or blog.

The lesson we can gain is that people are not numbers, accomplishments or notches on our spiritual belt. They are people in need of something more than a bag of rice or a couple of bucks in change and some pocket lint.

We have the opportunity to have a spiritually intimate encounter with each person we come into contact with.

Later I’ll post the interviews but from the both of them but I gained a sense of insecurity from both. Even through these generations sex hasn’t been the answer for them it’s led them to more questions.

As we discussed sex means giving a part of yourself, this is why when he isn’t being faithful if feels like your involved in the “others” sex acts, or when she begins her adulterous performance in that hotel in Reno you might as well have been there, because it sure as hell felt like it.

Be careful with your partners, you have them with you, treat everyone with respect and love so much it creates life.

Lastly I would like to say when I met Joe Francis it was something last minute, but when I say down with Larry Flynt there were a few people who were condemning this man to hell. Let me tell you I had spiritual conversations with both and you’d be amazed at what these men have in their hearts. Instead of picking up stones and signs and bibles. Just talk and walk with these men, really they are all on the same journey as all of us.

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